Until now, for a long time I still remember my past experienced vividly. The pain of being raped. The most important part of my body I guarded so well and taking care so intensely was taken away from me and rubbed me violently. How can I forgive and forget that was hurting me? Those people who hurt so badly go free. Truthfully to these days those memories still linger in my mind, so fresh that seems it happens yesterday. That’s how intense that memories Overpowered my whole being. Why I am replaying the past? How can I forgive and forget? Why I still have this nightmare? How to love and letting go of my fear?
We all manufacture our own dust and static which serve only to interfere seeing, hearing and experiencing love within ourselves and others. This self-imposed interference keeps us stuck in an old belief system that we use repeatedly, even though it doesn’t get us what we want.
The mind can be thought of as containing reels of reels of motion picture film about our past experiences. These images are superimposed not only at each other but also on the lens through which we experience the present. consequently, we are really never seeing fragments of the present through the tons of distorted old memories that we layer over it. If we are willing, we can with increasing effectiveness use active imagination to wipe away everything from those old reels except LOVE. This requires letting go of our past attachment to guilt and fear.
We often believe that the fears of the past can successfully predict the fears of the future. The results of this type of thinking are that we spend most of our time worrying both the past and the future, creating a vicious circle of fear, which leaves little room for love and joy in the present.
We can choose our own reality. because our will is free. We can choose to see and experience the truth. We can experience the truth of our reality as LOVE. To do this, we must, each instant, refuse to be limited by the fearful past and future and by the questionable “realities” we have adopted from our culture. We can choose to experience this instant as the only time there is, and live in a reality of now.
Because our minds have no boundaries, they are actually joined. In fact, our minds have only the limitations we place on them. For example, when we see value in making a fearful past ” real”, we limit our minds to using it as our reality. As a result, our minds can only look fearfully at as all that is to come, and cannot pause for an instant to enjoy the present in peace. When we use words such as can’t and impossible, we have imposed the limits of a fearful past on ourselves.
Peace of mind through forgiveness
The pain and hatred I felt for a longest time like a dagger deep through my heart. For a longed time I hated men, because of what these one man did to me.
With peace of mind as our single goal, forgiveness becomes our single functions. Forgiveness is the vehicle used for correcting our misperceptions and for helping us let go of fear. Simply stated, To forgive is to let go. Our first step in mind retraining is to establish peace of mind as our single goal.This means thinking of ourselves first in terms of self-fulness, not selfishness. The second step is forgiveness.
Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life. But forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on others, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurts you.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
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