Why I write and blog about forgiveness? Why many people struggles to forgive? These maybe one questions we may ask ourselves. Inner peace can be reach only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is the vehicle for changing out perceptions and letting go of our fears, condemning judgement and grievances.
We need to remind ourselves constantly that love is the only reality there is. Anything we perceive that does not mirror Love is a mis perception. Forgiveness, then, becomes the means for correcting our perceptions; it allows us to see only the Love in others and ourselves, and nothing else.
Through selective forgetting, through taking off the tinted glasses that superimpose the fearful past upon the present, we can begin to know that the truth of Love is forever present and that by perceiving only Love we can experience happiness. Forgiveness then become the process of letting go and overlooking whatever we thought other people may have done to us, or whatever we may think we have done to them.
When we cherish grievances we allow our mind to be fed by fear and we become imprisoned by these distortions. When we see our only function as forgiveness, and are willing to practice it consistently by directing our minds to forgiving, we will find ourselves released and set free. Forgiveness corrects the misperception that we are separate from each other, and allows us to experience a sense of unity and atonement with each other.
Forgiveness, as defined here, is different from the way most of us has been trained to understand it. Forgiveness does not mean assuming a position of superiority and putting up with or tolerating behaviour in another person that we do not like.Forgiveness means correcting our misperception that the other person harmed us. The unforgiving mind, contrasted with the forgiving mind, is confused, afraid and full of fear. It is certain of the interpretation it places on its perceptions of others. It is certain of justification of its anger and the correctness of its condemning judgement. The unforgiving mind rigidly sees the past and future as the same and is resistance to change. It does not want the future to be different from the past. The unforgiving mind sees itself as an innocent and others are guilty. It thrives on conflict and on being right, and it sees inner peace as its enemy. It perceive everything as separate.
When I see someone else as guilty, I am reinforcing my own sense of guilt and unworthiness. I cannot forgive myself unless I am willing to forgive others. It does not matter what I think anyone has done to me in the past or what I think I may have done. Only true forgiveness can my release from guilt and fear be complete.
Take care everyone! CHEERS Merly Bayona